The Choice

This morning, quite by accident I enjoyed powerful conversations with important people in my life. I notice how much connection I feel in those moments and how inspiration sits there smiling on.

Then, when left alone the brain tells you what to focus on. Your long to do list that begins with the words should and must. Even though the list may contain some things you want to do, the brain will lead you to the things that will not make you smile.

I notice how quickly I go to lack and who I miss and what I fear. My regrets, my loss and how when I feel the ache of all of that, my brain tells me Im being dramatic, a martry and that I create my misery. I imagine that most people reading this will say “yes me too, I go through that!”

So, thats the point of my writing. All of us, or I should say most of us are simply against ourselves, and our challenge is to escape and cut the chains of stories that hold us back. To use our experiences in order to be free and embrace our lives with purpose , love and connection.

The term, to have loved and lost, for me is incorrect. My love has not changed and moving on does not exsist for me. Moving through does. To live my life knowing that I have loved, and can still hold that love, whether the partnership has passed on through death or found another heart. What matters is that I learn and grow. That I reach deeper into my truth and embrace those who want to be in my life - forever or just for a time. Time ends up being irrelevant, its the experience that teaches us.

If I had understood this many years ago, some of my adventures would have been different. When we choose the wiser part of us, we choose the braver, bolder and more authentic part. I believe those qualities shine from the heart. Your own heart cannot be against yourself, and the sooner we connect those dots the better it all can be. I want that part of me to be seen and shared. I want to take care, so that I jump easily into the empowering moments to climb, and not the issues that make me weak and scared within that climb.

When I look at the lonliness of a day, I miss the opportunity it holds - and that is the difference when you make the choice for you.